Humor Me

"(January 3rd, 2011) Humour research now suggests that people with a greater “sense of humour” have distinctly longer lives to chuckle over than their more sober neighbours (at least in Norway)."

Credit: Lab Times

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     The affects of laughter and a sense of humor on the human life have long been researched. Not only does it enhance quality of life, but possibly even its longevity.

Wisdom's Knocking:

Try and find the humor in every situation, you might just live long enough to laugh about it later.

Spicy Sweet

   

     You've heard me say this on more than one occasion, but I really, really, really hope my future husband likes to fix cars, cook and maybe even bake. And if dreams do come true, he'll be baking my new favorite dessert: Chocolate Chipotle Brownie Coffee & Tea Cakes. Ya heard!

Wisdom's Knocking:

While passion may bring a couple together, it's patience that will keep them together.

Take the Time...Listen...Then Repeat

  

     Today, since I had a long drive ahead of me, I decided to experiment with my radio. I hadn't listened to the poor thing in about a month. As I switched the stations, there was one song that continued to stand out. And when I say stand out, I mean, it was played at least 4 times every 15 minutes on multiple stations.

     Without further delay, let me share with you the some of the lyrics to this week's favorite jam:

"Want you to make me feel like I'm the only girl in the world

Like I'm the only one that you'll ever love
Like I'm the only one who knows your heart
Only girl in the world...
Like I'm the only one that's in command
Cuz I'm the only one who understands, like I'm the only one who knows your heart, only one..."

     I am almost positive I heard this song played 10 times in the span of about an hour. But as I was being hypnotized by that house-like beat (Yes, I was dancing in my car), I realized that the lyrics truly touched on something key for us ladies.

     Men: In a romantic relationship, if you make us feel like the only girl in your life, we will be your ride-or-die chick until the end. It's really that simple. Yes, we may be mysterious creatures, but let me give you some quick yet life-changing insights about us ladies:

• If you give us intentional and non-distracted eye contact when you talk to us, we're hooked. 

• If you share your fears, hopes, and dreams with us, we're hooked. 

• If you encourage us to pursue our own dreams without you feeling jealous, we're hooked.

• If you take the time to listen to our boring, and sometimes hard to follow stories, we're hooked. 

• If you take the time to introduce us to the important people in your life (especially in public scenarios), we're hooked. 

• If we share an inside joke only the two of us know...Yes, you guessed it, we're hooked.

     Simply put, we want to feel like the beautiful exception in your life not the status quo.

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     Now be careful, Men. Use your powers for good and not evil. If you use my tested techniques on your unsuspecting lady friends, they may fall in love with you, of which in that case, you may have more drama than you bargained for.

     Men, if you've already implemented my techniques on your unsuspecting lady friends, make sure the air is clear and that your lady friends know where you stand in terms of your emotions. I cannot tell you how many times I've consoled my lady friends (and myself) in regards to receiving mixed signals from a Guy Best Friend of whom they were in love with, but who didn't love them back. It's a truly heartbreaking scenario that could have simply been avoided with honesty up front expressed by the guy. But I digress. Perhaps to be blogged about in the future.

     So yes, we as women like to talk a lot, but if you take the time to listen with intention, I promise you...it will be worth it in the end.

Wisdom's Knocking:

Make someone feel special today, take the time to listen.

Errday

Photo Credit: Judy Howieson

     For my writing pleasure, and perhaps for your reading enjoyment. I'll be writing a new blog post almost everyday.  Yes, an exciting and daunting adventure for both of us, sho' nuff. And on the days that I miss, I'll do my best to make up for it, by writing multiple posts in one day.  Say what! Yes. And that's no jive.

Wisdom's Knocking:

In the journey, every little step counts.

Say What You Mean

     It's been brought to my attention on more than one occasion that people rarely ever say what they truly mean.

     And when people do decide to tell the truth, it's wrapped in a weight of anger, because they've waited so long to express the true intentions of their heart. Saying what you mean, doesn't mean at the expense of hurting people, but at the expense of truly being understood. Motive.

     I'm a bit tired of the passive-aggressive bull. It distorts meaning and true connection with people. And yes, I'm definitely guilty of being passive-aggressive on more than one occasion. But it's not something I subscribe to frequently. At least, I'd like to believe so.

     I was raised in a house hold with two amazing parents, one of whom has the honesty of a true New Yorker, because she is one. That reality has penetrated my conversation style, that upbringing has given me the ability to speak freely when it comes to matters of the heart and to ask with honesty, difficult questions.

     For those that are used to hearing the phrase "Passive-Aggressive", but only hear it as white noise in the background. Let me refresh the definition for you:

1. Hiding hostility by seeming to be nice to someone you dislike and being unable to express honesty with that person.

2. Telling people what they want to hear, even if you don't believe in what you're saying.

3. You are angry, but afraid to show your anger, so you quietly take revenge by doing the opposite.

4. Out of touch with your inner feelings; and the only way to know how you feel about something is to observe your behavior, not to trust your words.

5. You avoid conflict at all cost by giving in to others, then procrastinate and never do what you agreed to do.

Definition Credit: Livestrong.com

     Simply put, being passive-aggressive basically means you're a classy liar.

     We may not always know the true motives of why an individual chooses to talk to us, to spend time with us, to listen to us, but we can be responsible and brave in regards to our own actions.

Wisdom's Knocking:

Remember to check the motives of your heart before you courageously say what you mean.