Love Posture

Photo Credit: Chris Molitor

     I'm always so concerned with the end result of a matter. I tend to find identity and validation in accomplishment. But clearly, I know that it's not simply about the destination, but the journey.

     Last week, I heard a remarkable and simple sentence from a mature and established artist. He simply commented on his desire to just do good work. He wasn't concerned with the awards and the accolades. He truly loved his craft.

     I know we've heard this posture of heart before. But it carries much more weight when you personally know the artist, their character, and the amazing quality of their work, as I did, with this particular individual.

     With this artist, I knew that what he said was full of absolute sincerity. So much so, that I felt the sweetness (not harshness) of conviction hit my soul.

     How many subjects and areas of my life do I count as incomplete because I have not reached an award, recognition or accolade? Case and point: My hopes of marriage. The sense of accomplishment. Accomplishing, what I consider, a major event of love. I've allowed myself to feel as though I'm not fully functioning in my passion. And although I am an avid romantic, I realize now, that marriage will only be a continuation of the journey of love that I am partaking in at this very moment.

     And in recognizing this, there are so many people to love passionately that are currently present in my life. So instead of me being concerned with the end goal of "accomplished love" through a specific event and moment, I realize that I am already "accomplishing love" in my day to day life-- even now.

Wisdom's Knocking:

Let your journey be filled with love, love, and more love. Love never fails. And will always be in its being and doing, an accomplishment of great proportions.

Groupie

Photo Credit: Dan Molitor

     I love my teen shows. I'm pretty much obsessed. Seriously. Here's a memorable scene from one of my new favorite teen shows:


     I like to call this scene: "It's Gettin' Hot in Herrr--Almost"

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INT. Living Room

Guy and girl sit cozy on a couch. All of the previous dinner guests have just left. It's now just the two of them.

Guy: What does it take to be one of your closest friends...?

Girl: What does it take to be one of your closest friends...?

(The two of them kiss.)

Guy: I don't do boyfriend, you understand that. Right?

(pause)

Girl: Sure

Guy: I have an unusually large emotional range which requires a lot of women, but should you choose to be one of those women, I promise you it'll be worth it. Well worth it. I'll always be honest with you. And right now, you are definitely, definitely top 3.

(The two almost kiss again...)

Girl: You don't do boyfriend. I don't do groupie.


End Scene.

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     Please tell me, you know what my favorite line of this scene is! I almost died laughing. Oh, and if you can guess which show this is, I'll give you a dollar. Hint: Meryl Streep's daughter plays the lead...

Wisdom's Knocking:

Establish a head of time what your boundaries are. Not merely in the moment of passion.

Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow?

      You know when someone new comes into your life, and you just click miraculously. You click amidst that person having no true context for who you really are.  They are not blinded or affected by your profession or varied accolades. Like magnets, the essence of both of you, are simply drawn together--effortlessly.

 Photo Credit: David Whitlow

     It's like a beautiful divine gift. It's a connection based on integrity, and hopeful prospects in its truest form. It's not based on how the two of you might gain a power play in life or use the other for social climbing, but instead it's a beautiful and authentic expression of the depths of friendship.

     Although I have recently experienced a divine connection with someone that has caused my heart to overflow with joy. That's not the current situation I'm thinking of and dissecting.

     I recently met and connected with a new friend within the last few months. And after they realized what I did for a living, there was increased pursuit on their part. Needless to say, I'm a bit suspicious of their motives. Am I being blatantly used?

Wisdom's Knocking:

True friendship is nothing short of a miracle.

Mo' Friends

Photo Credit: Yajaira Reynolds

     In the quest to become ever so popular, especially in the social network world, if you're not breaking at least 200 friends, people might think something is wrong with you. And if you have over 2,000 friends and your not a bona fide celebrity, you may come across as a D-bag.

     As I steadily make my climb on the social network ladder, I begin to feel a bit of conviction. Proverbs 18:24 comes to mind: "A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother."

     The true beauty of friendship boils down to those 1 or 2 friends that you know would carry your body out of a burning fire, or would sit and talk with you about nonsense for at least 6 hours straight--and both of you actually enjoy it.

     So I asked myself the question: Am I turning into that person that has the appearance of friendships without the reality of true close and intimate friendships? I hope not.

Wisdom's Knocking:

It's not good to spread yourself thin, especially in the realm of friendships that one acquires. It's about quality of friendship, not quantity.

Girl-friend/Boy-friend

Photo Credit: Yajaira Reynolds

I want to write a poem about how one draws a line.
Making distinctions.
Making points clear.
(And to this man)
I understand you have a lot friends of the female persuasion.
Therefore, I like it when you draw lines.
Making things clear.
And in this poem, I'd talk about Drawing lines fast or even slow.
But persuading you to just go ahead and Draw one.
I prefer it to be Drawn with a pen rather than a pencil.
I like it when one begins to Draw lines, because then
They begin to turn into Hearts.

Wisdom's Knocking:

"Boundaries are to protect life, not to limit pleasures."--E.L. Cole