What. Are You Trying to Be Sexy?

Photo Credit: Lindsay Coleman

    

     It just seems that when you are trying to put forth the energy of being sexy and desirable, it comes off as strained and uncomfortable. I bring this point up, because, once again, I was looking through an array of Facebook photos, of friends and myself.

     The premise of Facebook allows the usually subdued narcissistic behavior of our species to be fully out in the open. And with that said, I get to see your interpretation of what you deem as sexy and desirable, by merely looking at your profile pics.

     Unlike the pictures that friends and co-workers randomly tag us in, our profile pictures are those photos carefully and methodically picked out by us.

     I know you're like me, and you spend at least 10 minutes thinking about which photo is profile pic worthy. And not only do you think about which one makes it to the ever-so-glorious profile pic position, but we also think of the reasons why it made the cut.

Some Possible Reasons Our Profile Picture Made the Cut: 

1. The picture may be indicative of our personality, or how we would like our personality to be perceived.

2. The picture may parallel our current mood in life, or...

3. The picture may show us off to people in our best possible lighting, making us look cool and sexy at the same time.

     With that said, your beauty is not confined to a state of "Sexiness". Your light far shines beyond such a notion. But instead, when you are truly free and comfortable in your own skin, you'll find yourself bringing sexy back in its purist form, without even trying.

Wisdom's Knocking:

Your best lighting for a picture won't always come from an external lighting kit, but instead from the brightness that you bring. 

Look Who's Talking...

     Photo Credit: Yajaira

     Have you recently been in one of those conversation, where a person just keeps talking and talking and talking. It's as if they love hearing the sound of their own voice. And on top of that, you don't get a meaningful word in edge wise beyond the occasionally, "Mmmhmm" and "Yeah."

     The art of conversation is not merely in the talking but in our ability to listen and to respond from that place.

     I have to watch myself at times. I have to make sure that I'm not just trying to pummel through a whole array of information, just because it's on my mind. Instead, I want to be sensitive to the person and subjects that we are addressing.

     And in the best case scenarios, when you and a friend are simply sharing your hearts and talking about nonsense, don't forget to listen. Not just "hear" and move on to your next point.

     Yes, our words carry weight and are far more meaningful than we often realize.

Wisdom's Knocking:

"Say Less. And mean every word that you say." -Joyce Meyer

Childlike

 Photo Credit: Stephanie

     I love how the presence of children changes an atmosphere. I know that the presence of children can make some folks uncomfortable. But then, I think why?

     When children are around, I'm reminded of innocence, of awe, of wonder. When children are around, I find a lot more things to laugh about. When children are around, I'm reminded of the kindness and protective strength of God.

     Many times children are a ball of unrestrained energy. But at the same time, they are not yet overcome with useless insecurities. They are always trusting the best in people. Much like Love does.

     But there's something about being around children, that makes us as adults want to become better people. And to me, that is one of the most extraordinary things that the presence of children ushers in.

Wisdom's Knocking:

Childishness is synonymous with immaturity. But Child-likeness is synonymous with freedom.

Her Fleece

     Photo Credit: Patrice

     I don't know how it happened. But as if overnight, I have inherited this brand new love for lambs. Ahh! Just the thought of a baby lamb is bringing a tear to my eye.

     Randomly the other night,  I was watching a Scandanavian cooking show on PBS (I miss you, Denmark!), and next thing I knew, I saw Claus holding a baby lamb. Never mind the fact that he was talking about the best way to cook a lamb. But as Claus was holding that baby lamb, it was the most precious thing ever. I honestly think I started crying.

     So then, the very next day, I find myself doing one of my favorite things, just driving in the wilderness with no particular place to go. And of course, as I turn the corner of a deserted road, I find myself surrounded by sheep and baby lambs. Of course. I love my life.

Wisdom's Knocking:

"The Lord is my Shepherd....He leads me beside still waters..."

What's Your Love Language?

     Some of you've heard of Gary Chapman's book series titled, "The Five Love Languages". There's the Love Languages for Kids, Singles, Marrieds, Parents of Teens, etc. But all of these books are centered around the same 5 Characteristics we are said to best receive and give love:

1. Quality Time
2. Words of Affirmation
3. Gifts
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch

     There's a fun little test you can take to figure out what your top 2 love languages are (Click Here to take the test). I took the test a while back, and my top 2 love languages were/are: 1. Physical Touch and, 2. Quality Time.

    The premise of the book states that we all operate in these key expressions of love, but one or two are our primary love language, according to our personalities. Meaning, the way in which we actually feel loved is a specific love language . And the way that we express our love to others is done in a particular love language.

     I'm thinking of retaking the test. I feel as though my expression of love has possibly matured and changed a bit. But then again, maybe not. I still absolutely adore quality time and affection.

     With that said, what's your primary love language?

Wisdom's Knocking:

Take the time to understand how you best receive expressions of love.  And let that be known.