Dumb.



Why does stupidity irk me so?

I mean, sometimes, people just don't know.

How can I fault them for ignorance when they just don't know.

But in that case, I call that naïve. And I can deal with naïve people.

It's just dumb people that get on my last nerve.

These are the people that profess with their mouths that they are this and they are that, that they are "stand up" men and women, only to make theeee dumbest choices time after time, circumstance after circumstance. It's like they're not even really trying to change. They've become so comfortable being hypocrites that they don't even know that they are hypocrites. Ahhhh!

I--I---I don't know what to do with these people.

They could be smart really...By one simple task:

Having your words line up with your actions. As consistently as possible. And then, get around people that walk in wisdom, not those that simply talk about it. And learn from them. Put what you've learned from the wise into practice.

Ok. My rant is done.

Carry on.


Wisdom's Knocking:

"To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable, because God has forgiven you the inexcusable in you." - C.S. Lewis



5 Ways To Make Friends

  Photo Credit: Analee Ward   


     I understand that you like to keep to yourself. And you'd rather do meaningful work on your Pinterest page, edit photos, or check and edit your Facebook profile every 6.2 minutes, in attempt to look more marketable, more successful, more fun, more funny.

     But marketable for who? For what exactly? You're not really gettin' out there and connecting, you're just shyly observing (Ehem, creepin on Facebook. Look. I'm guilty too!). But I'm proud of you. You're still here reading this post. So that says something...

      Furthermore, I wanna help you get out there and connect. You're amazing. Really. And someone new in 2013 should discover that.

      The truth is you probably have friends or at least one, the same friend(s) you've had for more than half your life. So you haven't had to put forth a lot of effort in developing new friendships, unless they somehow fell in your lap through work or a mutual friend.

     It's like you've been in a long term marriage relationship with your current friend(s) and you've let yourself go.

     Has anyone told you your strengths? Your weaknesses as a friend? Are those people still your friends? Remember, our circle of friends says a lot about who we are. We don't need to always be surrounded by "Yes Men", we need people in our lives that won't be afraid to tell us the truth, even in hard circumstances.

     But when you have a solid circle of friends, your life is rich, full of laughter and tears (sometimes at the same time), and a well-rounded perspective when it comes to the beauty of simply livin'.


Here's a refresher course in How to Make Friends (And Keep Them):

1. Smile.

No it's not a sign of weakness. But it is the difference between someone approaching you and/or possibly clutching their purse.

2.  Them Not You.

Ask someone about their life. What was the highlight of their past week? The lowlight? Before you say a word about yourself, you should know at least 3 new solid facts about the person standing in front of you.

3. Relax.

Don't take yourself too seriously. Allow yourself to flub your words a bit or embarrass yourself.  Give yourself permission to be the full expression of who you are.

4. Effort.

While doing the things you love (ie: Snowboarding, knitting, dancing, fantasy football, etc.), be sure to connect with the community of that particular activity. That involves you taking the first step. Introduce yourself to a new person and be intentional about remembering their name for the future.

5. Not Just Birthdays.

You don't just have to wait until it's your friends birthday to do something genuinely nice for them or to get them a gift. Trust me, gifts given without a selfish agenda will win a special place in people's heart forever.


*Oh, and here's a freebie: Stay Drama Free. If drama seems to follow you wherever you go, don't look at everyone else, it may be time to look at yourself.





Wisdom's Knocking:

"Associate yourself with people of good quality, for it is better to be alone than in bad company."

-Booker T. Washington






18 Years of Age

     Photo Credit: Hannah Anderson



     So grown men still do this. I'm gonna be honest, it kinda grosses me out a little.

     This especially hurts my heart because I work with teen girls, and they are absolutely precious to me. They're like my babies.

     I see and hear every week, how vulnerable they truly are and how leery or too trusting they are regarding the intentions of men. Even with the "mature" 18 year old girls, there's still a lot of life yet to be learned.

     Anyone over 25 that is seriously dating an 18 year old, needs to convince me that they are not a pervert.

     Sorry. I know I sound like Judge Judy on this one.

     Am I alone in this?

     I know "age ain't nothin' but a number", but dang, it's still a number.

     I mean, the thought of me dating a 21 year old makes me dizzy.

     It's just, when I think of an 18 year old, that means that last year, she was 17...and yes, by other standards in other places, she's more than fit and ready to marry an older man. But somehow, ingrained in my head is that men who love young young girls, love young, young, young girls.

     You see where I'm going with this.

     So I go from 0 to 100. I basically assume that you have serious immaturity or self-control issues and you may be a child molester. I know, this is absolutely horrible and wrong for me to even go there, but that's what my mind does.

     And why do I judge so harshly? The beauty of innocence is often too quickly destroyed in a lifetime and especially in our overtly sexual culture. But the harder question to ask, is towards myself. Am I reflecting or projecting my own immaturity and lack of self-control in other areas of my life towards individuals that may be seemingly in a real loving and legitimate relationship?

      I know that one can fall in love at practically any age. And believe it or not, more than a couple of my friends got married at 18 and 19 years old (Some to men older than themselves). I'm just observing, that as I get older, the wives and girlfriends of my guy friends seem to get younger and younger. Ha.

     But look, if God is the foundation of your union, and the chemistry between the two of you is legit, and you've found out that your purpose to serve and love people as a couple is better and more powerful than if you were apart and single, then yes, I'll swallow my pride, and I'll support you-- all the way.




Wisdom's Knocking: 

"Forget all the reasons why it won't work, and believe the one reason why it will." 

-Unknown