I was at a wedding and saw this girl act so incredibly rude and a bit stank.

     Most people shrugged it off, but I was amazed that someone had the cojones to be so bold about their own wants and complaints during someone else's big day.

     For some reason her own pain was causing her to implode and say and do things that were just down right rude.

     For a moment, I was like, "Um, you do realize you said that out loud, right?...You do realize we are at a wedding, like where other people can hear you? And you do know that this is not your wedding?"

     Our immaturity and tantrums are often coddled by our fair-weather friends, yet challenged by our real friends and family.

     And then we either decide to ignore them or isolate ourselves so we don't have people "Telling us what to do."

     Newsflash: They're not simply trying to tell you what to do, but rather, how to be a kind and tolerable human being we actually want to be around and can trust.

     Do we realize how ugly and unattractive we look as human beings when we throw tantrums.

     I mean, it's funny/annoying when a 2 year old does it. But now imagine how you look...

     You do know that you're not the only one who has ever gone through rejection, pain, and disappointment.

     And yet, some people learn to go through these valleys in the Gene Kelly way:

     And then some people develop a habit of going through the valleys the Ratchet-Sheneneh way:

     If I'm honest, my current tantrum rating is somewhere in the middle...


     My response to rude girls and boys that throw tantrums at other peoples weddings, parties, graduations, and other outings in public:  Don't be a selfish son of a ........hurting person.

     If you are known to throw adult tantrums on the regular, let me help you out.

     Because soon, no one is going to want to be around you. And then you'll be surrounded by fake friends and wonder where the heck all your real friends went and how your life spiraled...

     When you feel a tantrum coming on in a public setting:

     Be big enough to first hush your mouth. Stop spewing garbage. And go take a breather. If someone asks what's wrong, just let them know (Without attitude, thank you very much) that you needed to take a little bit of a breather, but you'll be fine.

    If you're in the presence of a true trusted friend, be vulnerable and tell them what's really irking you. Is it that fact that you've been wanting to be married all your life, and the one friend who vowed they'd never get married or didn't care if they did, is now married and in a blissful state of existence and you find yourself hurt--worse than hurt...somehow betrayed.

     I know. I get it. Please believe.

     But being a in a tantrum isn't going to change anything for you.

     Choosing to be kind and forgiving towards yourself and others will change things, and inevitably help in an effort to be kind and relatable to those around you.

    And lastly, sometimes you just need to laugh about it.

    Don't take yourself so seriously. And when you find yourself on the verge of having a tantrum, just know, that this too shall pass.

    Plus, laughing about it all is a much hotter look than that of the tantrum.

    Little redirected moments like this help us learn how to be kind and thoughtful human beings.

      To the girl at that wedding: I understand. Your moment of selfishness and pain blinded you. Nevertheless, your tantrum was stupid. But thank you for giving me good blog material. xo

Wisdom's Knocking:

“Temper tantrums, however fun they may be to throw,
rarely solve whatever problem is causing them.” 

-- Lemony Snicket, Horseradish