The World is Getting Smaller

Photo Credit: Adrias Pereda

     I was about to begin this blog with a line about proximity. But all of a sudden, the "Mr. Roger's" theme song ran through my head.

     You know the one. "Would you be mine, Could you be mine...Won't you be my neighbor." (If you feel left out, you can simply Click Here, to get caught up.) 

     But it still amazes me, that I probably know someone that you know.

     With so many people on this planet, it's easy to simply get caught up in numbers and figures. And math may try to make you feel like a king, making you think you have all the odds under control and understood.

     But I say this to you and I, you'll get found and you'll get found out. It's only a matter of time. We know you.


Wisdom's Knocking:

It's been said, "A stranger is a friend you haven't met yet."



The Answer


     So most of you know of my current poll on Facebook. To Online Date or Not?..That is the question.

     Well, voting is now closed. I had time to review all of your comments, stories, and insights. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with me. And a special Thank You, to those that went a step further and sent me incredible feedback via emails, phone calls, and Facebook messages.

     I also had time to sift through some specific matters in my own heart. I had time to really pray and process this step with the Lord. And to be honest, I'm working through a bit of bitterness on my own part.

     There have been a few distinct times in my life, that I felt that I was so close to romance that I could almost smell it. Only to realize later that I was smelling poop.

     And as you know, recently, I thought I was about to embark on my romance season, only to make myself slightly vulnerable, open to the prospects of love and have the man in question completely pull back and find interest elsewhere. It was and is a bit of a bittersweet scenario.

     The last date I went on was in 2001. And that wasn't even really a date, more like a celebrating-a-great-night-in-Italy-with-a-group-of-friends date. Another story for another blog post.

     And the last relationship I was in, was in 2000. Wow, I'm just sharing all my business. Ha.

     I've taken great pains to guard my heart over these last 10 years. I've kept my heart open and ready to receive love. I've kept my expectations and hopes alive. And I also have this dream I can't seem to shake. A dream that I had of a man over 10 years ago.

     With all that said, and the odds seemingly against me, I am not about to give up on true, powerful, and divine romance happening in my life.

    A good friend of mine, Michelle, posted something simple yet profound on my Facebook page in regards to me pursuing online dating. She was in the "No" camp. But she backed it up with a prophetic word. A declaration of hope. This June will be a month of miracles for me. And for some reason, I can't shake that prophetic word.

     So, what's my answer regarding online dating?...



     I'll start in July.




Wisdom's Knocking:

Don't let defeat become your attitude.


To Put It Mildly




I felt the Wind

    I felt the Fire

I felt those Butterflies and Ladybugs Dance

And like ice in the Sun, I melted.

          Thank you for the Awakening.

  Thank you for the Glance.

Kindness and Tenderness, Hand in Hand.

                    And now like a Beauty, I lay back down to Sleep.

Dreaming of the one I danced with, among the Trees.


Wisdom's Knocking:

Close calls and brief encounters in love, are simply foretastes of more established things to come...



Those That Can't Do, Teach...

     Photo Credit: David Whitlow Photography

     How in the world did I just give relationship advice tonight to one of my guy friends? This is becoming incredibly comical.

     I was in the midst of an intense pity party. You know what I'm talking about ladies, bawling my eyes out because I'm tired of being single. I know I'm not the only who does this. Anyhow, as I'm yelling and crying my guts out to God, I glance down at my phone. It was a phone number I didn't recognize and I thought it was my computer technician calling me to say that my laptop had been fixed.

     I pick up the call. I say, "Hello". Dead air.

     I knew that this couldn't be good.

     "Patrice?...Wow, I didn't think that you'd pick up."

     Yes, you know how I do. Nevertheless, I couldn't squirm out of the call and found myself 40 minutes deep in a conversation with one of my guy friends. He was updating me on his current potential love life.

     Of course.

     And I quickly went into relationship counselor mode. Always. I had some pretty amazing things to say, if I do say so myself.

     It was incredibly ironic actually. Here I was, weeping because the guy I currently have a crush on, will not pursue me. And here was my guy friend, eager to pursue and ready for a serious relationship with a girl who wasn't completely ready.

     How is this my life right now?


Wisdom's Knocking:

"Love is a smoke and is made with the fume of sighs." 
- William Shakespeare, Romeo & Juliet, Act 1 Scene 1


Her Name Is Chimwemwe


     The dress that I'm wearing in the picture has a great deal of significance to me.

     It was beautifully handmade with the material given to me while I was in Zambia on a 2008 missions trip.

     When the material was handed to me by the giver, a new name was given to me as well, the name Chimwemwe.

It means Joy.




Wisdom's Knocking:

Perhaps your name holds more than just a marker amidst the masses. Perhaps it holds a piece of destiny.