No Response

     Photo Credit: Joel Stephens

     It feels awful to be ignored.

     For the most part, no one tries to engage another person in conversation with the expectation of them staring blankly at their face.

     And yet, we do this almost on a daily through a series of actions. This week in particular I sent out a couple of text messages. Only to never hear a reply back from those specific people. Pet peeve city. I mean, I can bare a bit of a delayed response. But a "No Response". Come on.

     We are good at the art of avoidance. But we should just simply state: "You are not a priority to me in this moment. Deal with it." Okay. That's harsh. But the time in which it takes you to read a quick text message, you could be so kind and considerate and simply respond with a "BRB" or some other hip nonsense. All to say, "Message Received--I see you. I hear you." But instead, a "No reply" feels like getting the hand in your face-- "Oh, no you de-ent!" Plus, if it was done to you (being ignored) regarding someone you truly esteemed, loved, and respected, your feelings would be hurt just the same.


     I wonder if these non-responders are related to the folks that quickly change their minds and principals according to how the wind blows. I was reminded earlier this week. "If your word doesn't carry weight--you have nothing." Simply, let your yes be yes and your no be no.

     So indeed use discretion regarding your phone number, and you'll have far less technology-relationship battles. As you know, a many text messages, or lack thereof, have gotten countless folks in trouble.

     And for the record: My text messages are not usually rhetorical. I'm just sayin'.

Wisdom's Knocking:

"Do to others as you would have them do to you."

At Hello

"Top Picks" Here we go:

     So you heard about Lindsay and Margot. But now let's mix it up a bit. The ladies have clearly been reigning on my "Top Picks" list, but now I make room for the one and only Dan Molitor.

     You know when you go to a magic show and your mind is blown. And you keep thinking, "How'd he do that??" Yeah, well my first encounter with Dan was a bit like that. It was one of those rare occurrences where someone genuinely makes you laugh and not because they're being awkward, but because you understand without pretense and explanation their sense of humor and story. Ah. What a relief and what a gift.

     One of my favorite quotes: "Laughter is the shortest distance between two people".

     But there was also something about Dan that was so real and honest and vulnerable. On the spot, unknown to him, I adopted him as my little brother. It became effortless to love him and to desire nothing but the best for him and his life.

     I love when that happens. When you feel a wonderful kinship with someone you just meet.

     I'm quite sure you'll hear about Dan in the years to come. You'll see his face in your magazines and hear his voice over airwaves. But just remember, prepare yourself for the unexpected. There's more than meets the eye with this one...

Wisdom's Knocking:

"We cannot live for ourselves alone. Our lives are connected by a thousand invisible threads, and along these sympathetic fibers, our actions run as causes and return to us as results." -- Frederick Buechner

Why Are You Single?

     Yes, yes. I know. Singleness is not a disease, contrary to what your mother has said in public or the culture at large. And you know me. I love and enjoy my life as a single woman. But I also love romance. Even when it's not happening to me.

     With that said, in addition to me mentioning my "Top Picks" of favorite people each month, I feel so inspired to highlight some of the beautiful people that I know who are single.

     I mean, I'm looking at your Facebook pictures, and it don't make no sense! Why hasn't someone snatched you up?? Okay, okay. Maybe you don't want to be "snatched" up. Which by the way, has a whole new connotation to me now. I just watched the reality series, "My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding". Um. Google that mess. How is it, that I'm just now learning about a society of British "Travellers" that practices the art of "Grabbing".

     "Grabbing" in their culture, and yes, it is a separate culture in and of itself, of which the young boys initiate flirting, grab a girl and try to get her to kiss them. Verrrry interesting and a bit awkward to watch. But there I go again on one of my rabbit trails.

     But once again, I ask the question, "Why isn't anyone trying to holler at you?" In my eyes, you are quite the catch. Now, I'm not trying to be a matchmaker. My track record sucks a bit at that. But I will do my best to be a bit of a P.R. love agent.

     Let the chips fall where they may...

First Up:

Ms. Victoria Clemmons

What I love about her: Her quick wit and good heart.

What you probably don't know about her: She has a fan base

What you should bring to the table: A good song, kind eyes, a solid prayer, and good style

Wisdom's Knocking:

If at first you don't succeed, try, try again.

She's a Boss

     

     "Top Picks" continued.

     So let's get right into it. Margot Carlson was one of my top 5 June picks. Why? Because this chick is a bad mamma jamma. And mostly because she's awesome. Over the past few years, I've had the privilege of working with her on some of the craziest award shows on the planet. And she knows how to get the job done.

     But she completely surprised me in 2010 when she made my dreams come true by taking my to see the amazing musical Broadway hit, "In the Heights" during it's short run in Los Angeles. Not only did she treat me to amazing seats but the timing of seeing "In the Heights" was perfect. We were able to see it with the creator, Lin-Manuel Miranda playing the lead role of which he made famous on Broadway. Ahh! I was in heaven. And I shared that memory with the ever so lovely, Margot.

     By far, that was the best date I've had in about 5 years.

     Margot Carlson: Thank you for your hugs, your humor, and your love. Can't wait to see you on the next show!

     Next up, from my "June Top Picks"...Dan Molitor...

Wisdom's Knocking:

Who you work with, is often who you spend the most time with. Pick a vocation you love.

Time Cop

Artwork By: Lindsay Coleman     

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Wisdom's Knocking:

Just because something is delayed, doesn't mean it's denied.