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It’s been a while since I’ve seen someone lose their cool and get uber defensive. Wait. Now that I think about it, that’s a lie. It was just that this particular incident seemed to stick out strongly, because it involved someone that I respect and care about deeply.
Needless to say, when any of us are challenged in our current behavior patterns, we tend to get a little fidgety. Mostly, because I believe that certain behavior patterns are rooted in a deep seated emotion or event that has not been fully dealt with. And that emotion lives just enough below the surface to go unrecognized by strangers.
Vulnerability is such a fragile and scary and brave attribute to acquire and maintain. One has to feel safe. One has to feel secure. One has to feel free in order to jump the cliff of vulnerability with another person.
Today, without belittling and devaluing my own position and worth, I tried to remain a safe and loving place of refuge—a fair listening ear.
The verdict is still out. Buttons were pushed. But as we’re both left standing. I will once again choose love. And I won’t be afraid—rather I chose not to be afraid to be vulnerable once again.
An argument doesn’t always have to end in division.